It has definitely become a bit of an obsession. Mostly because I have paid attention to it like I have never before. Love. I recently decided to ACTUALLY start dating. I used to entertain the idea of going on a date with someone but would always chicken out or somehow sabotage the conversation myself with excuses. It wasn’t like it was hundreds of guys or even more than 10. I wasn’t on anything that actually was putting me out there as ‘available’ until I started on a gay social/dating (somewhat of a sex searching) app called Jack’d where you create a profile on you phone. Cliff Notes on the App: you get 3 pictures and 2 locked ones (for the nekid ones) and you have a detailed bio if you choose to share yourself and you get to see who around you has a profile also. It’s a pretty popular app in the gay community. I also have gotten on Tinder for the sake of seeing what it was about and it’s actually a fun little app to kill some time.
But I digress. This convoluted idea of what I think I want began with a conversation with a boy. It all starts off great and we automatically have something we bond over (us watching RuPauls drag race and being big fans). Convos going good for about an hour….Then this happens:
boy: any other pics? (p.s. this question is out of nowhere)
me: for example?
boy: oh thats up to you
me: lol well my insta has the g rated pictures @thegabrielzamora
boy: and the pg-xxx?
I don’t really like being looked at in just a sexual manner. I get it. Everyone now a days (except for me) is having sex left and right and thats the new norm. But….can you at least get to know me for me? Im not tooting my own horn, but I know the I have recently started coming into ‘my looks’ you can say. So I have been getting a different kind of attention from the boys boys boys. Its different for me. I’m really not used to it. My lack of a dating/sex life is of course to blame. But its also my pure idea of what dating and love is.
I’m a hopeless romantic and believe that i can fall in love at a coffee shop. Its foolish but its what I know from the fantasy tv and movies paint. My friend tells me that I’m a bit foolish too. That I have to start dating to experience all the stuff that I have to experience. I’m coming to realize that when dating, 1 out of 10 will be a potential guy. i find that to be annoying and a waste of time. but ill play the game. Correct me if I’m wrong though but why cant I just meet mr. right….right now?
My friends partner told me ‘your too young and inexperience to fall in that kind of love right now’….and maybe he’s right…? I think I’m just over that fact that I haven’t met anyone thats worth going into a 3rd date with. No one ever shows this part in the movies and shows. That sometimes you have to go on these 1 or 2 dates with randoms that becomes nothing. I’m learning, I’m learning. I’m also ranting because I’m sleepy but cant fall asleep. All I’m learning is that:
– I’m not the dating person thats dating to just date, i would for it to become ‘something’
-I’m still a hopeless romantic….but I am getting scared that that kind of life doesn’t exist….for me
I think that Sex in the City is f*****g with my mind. They make love….Romantic, I fall in love with the idea of love. I feel like her on the last episode where she tells her Russian lover :
“I’m looking for love. Real love. Ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, can’t-live-without-eachother love”
But i guess theres little moments in life that teach you a little something about the world, the kind of boys boys boys there are and about yourself. (i.e. i cant date someone shorter than me….had to learn that from a date)